Basics: Editing your profile

In the previous post I gave you the first 5 steps towards getting girls, and I had you fill out a profile. If you've not done that step yet, go back and do it now. Now it's on to the next part.

Fill out your profile again.

Seriously.

The first time you filled out the profile was because you need a profile to get the ball rolling. This time, you're going to fill out using my tips. Because the profile, and specifically what you write in it, is a very crucial key to getting girls.

The first time you filled out the text portion of your profile you probably just filled out each section like they asked, like you were filling out a form at the DMV. This time, you're going to fill it out with the goal to entice girls. Your profile is part of the first impression you make: it's all the small talk, body language, and getting-to-know-you-chitchat that normally happens when meeting someone in real life, all rolled up on a web page. It makes a mountain of difference.

Use my tips below and make incremental changes to your existing profile. The way to do this is to start with your existing profile and make changes to it to punch it up. Read all the tips through and see how you can make changes:

• The goal of the profile is to entice girls, NOT to inform them. Your profile will inform them, but not with details. It will instead paint a picture of who you are in the same way you learn about people in real life: through their actions, words, and experiences. Not through a resume.
• Be conversational. Write like you're joking with your best friends, minus locker room talk. In fact, I often talk out loud about what I'm going to write, and then write it down. This helps change my writing style to sound less form-like and more conversational.
• Be funny. Girls like to laugh. And more importantly, girls want to be with someone who is fun to be around, not boring, and not too serious. When reading your profile girls are subconsciously thinking that they're having a conversation with you. If it's boring, you'll be painted as a boring person. This is why I say the goal is not to inform. The goal is to entertain.
  
• Litter your profile with statements that raise questions. Unanswered questions raise interigue and give girls reasons to email you. A great way to do this is to start stories, or give hints of scenarios, but don't finish them. For example: "Tip: if you ever find yourself sitting next to George Clooney at a dive bar, don't slyly tell him you didn't like his performance in "Three Kings" in a buzzed attempt to show him you're not blinded by celebrity. George Clooney, apparently, has feelings too." Except, well, try not to lie. But my point is, this is just a hint of a story, and it asks more questions than it answers. It builds intrigue, and if a girl is interested in emailing you, it's a perfect opener for her. With a sentence like that in your profile you'll get at least one "So, what did George Clooney do when you said that?" or "Where did that happen?" email a week.
• Show you've got things going on in your life and show girls how much fun and interesting it is to be in your inner-circle of friends, whether it's as a girlfriend, a date, or just a friend. For example, on OKcupid's "What you're doing on a typical Friday night" section of the profile, you could say something like "I know what I'm NOT doing: getting handcuffed to the bar railing and not realizing it until I go to walk away with my date, while I'm holding a full martini between us. I'm not doing THAT. Again." First, it's funny. Second, it sounds like its true. Third it sounds like you're outgoing and fun to be around, and that fun stuff happens to you. Forth, it's not cocky and a bit self-depricating, you're not uptight and laugh at situations like this, and not get mad at them. Fifth, it shows you're a classy guy: it was a Martini, not a Smirnoff Ice. Sixth, it begs for further explaination. One sentence like that in your profile could be the difference between whether or not a girl replies to you. Seriously. And you don't have to fabricate a story to come up with a line like that. Think back, you've got tons of stories like that from your real life.
• Don't get stuck! When you make a good change, SAVE IT, then go back and edit it again. This lets you do incremental updates. You WILL improve your profile over time, and this is something you should always be tweaking, so don't sweat it too much.

I put a lot of emphasis on a great profile, because it makes a huge difference in getting a girl's attention. And it actually helps a ton leading up to a first meeting, which I'll be explaining in future posts.

Improving your profile is something you will constantly be doing. Sometimes I'll come up with a clever line while with friends, and later on that night I'll go back and slip it into the profile. Remember: you're not writing a novel, and you can go back and change parts of it in order you like, at any time you like. It's not homework you have to have perfect before you turn it in.

Once you've pimped your profile the first time, you'll shift into the Loop, and if you have time today I recommend you read it next.

In the future I'll have more posts where I talk a bit about the reasons behind all these rules, but for now I hope you can just go forward with the rules and see how it works.